Where Did We Go Wrong in Raising Our Child?

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By Billy Graham,
Tribune Media Services

Q: We never see our two grandchildren, because our
son never married their mother and finally abandoned them, so naturally she
doesn't want anything to do with us. We didn't raise our son this way, but now
we don't even know where he is. Where did we go wrong? We feel so guilty. --
Mrs. C.K.

A: You carry a burden that is doubly heavy, for not only are
you separated from your grandchildren, but your son has cut himself off from
you.

But don't add to your burden by blaming yourself for everything
that has gone wrong. You may feel you weren't perfect parents -- but none of us
are, and from what you say, you tried to bring your son up to do what is right.
Your son alone is responsible for his rebellious attitude, and you should not
take upon yourselves a burden of guilt that you don't deserve. The Bible says,
"The soul who sins is the one who will die. The son will not share the guilt of
the father, nor will the father share the guilt of the son" (Ezekiel 18:20).


Can you do anything to change this situation? I don't know -- but I
encourage you to try. Let your grandchildren's mother know (perhaps by letter)
that you deeply regret what your son did, and that you will always care about
her and her children. Perhaps an occasional card or small gift (e.g., on their
birthdays) might crack open the door to further contact. And pray often for
them.

Most of all, I urge you to turn your burden over to the Lord. God
loves you -- and He also loves your son and grandchildren. Jesus' invitation is
for you: "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you
rest" (Matthew 11:28).

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